The holidays should be a time for celebration, family, and fun. However, many of us become overwhelmed with to-do lists, expectations and guilt! I know, because this was me!
Every year without fail I would get sick the week of Thanksgiving and it would last until about the new year. EVERY. YEAR. like clockwork.
This was not a coincidence; this was due to stress and anxiety. I come from a long line of anxious people, so I have learned quite well how to follow that pattern.
Several years ago I decided, I didn’t want to be that way anymore so I switched up some core belief systems I had. Trust me, this is not an overnight transformation, it takes time! But I think through gaining a new perspective, these tips might help give you new insight on how to manage your stress throughout the holidays.
Premier Vitality’s Tips for Surviving the Holidays
#1: Forget About What Everyone Else Is Doing
I think this might be one of the biggest ideas of all, which is why I listed it #1. I don’t care what Suzie is eating for Christmas dinner and it makes no difference to me how Paula from down the street decorated her house. Jan has the entire family flying in? Great for her!
The question is – What brings YOU and YOUR family joy? What makes you feel good? What kind of memories do you want to create with your family?
I used to have some crazy expectations in my head as to what the holiday experience was “supposed” to be like. No one ever told me that it “had” to be a certain way, but when I was growing up, holidays were always a pretty big deal. Big family dinners with lots of people. Usually we would have 2 or 3 places to go for Thanksgiving and Christmas! In my mind, I was failing my family unless we had a huge dinner, the whole spread with decorations and tons of people, and at Christmas I felt I was a terrible mother if the tree wasn’t exploding with gifts (even if it put us thousands of dollars in debt).
Mama, breathe. Take a step back. What does YOUR heart want? How do you want to raise YOUR children? What is best for YOUR family? I would bet a happy mama is something your children would want.
#2: Take A Time Out
As we contemplate what WE want for our family, it helps to take a time out from the world. Reduce your time on social media and stop feeling bad about yourself because your holiday decor isn’t Pinterest perfect. Be present with your family and find joy in the little things life.
#3: Set Boundaries And Be Comfortable Saying No
Boundaries are so GOOD!!! Decide what you are and are not willing to take on. You don’t have to host dinner. You don’t have to go to the Christmas party. Becky wants you to take the lead on the fundraising event? Guess what?! It’s OK to say no! Yeah, I know, it’s crazy but the truth is…someone ELSE can do it! Shocking, I know. The question is, do you WANT to? Not, do you feel like you “should”…but do you truly WANT to? If it’s not a hell yes, then it’s a no.
#4: Be “Selfish”
Take time for yourself! Take a bubble bath, get a massage, do whatever it is that gives you that little recharge that you so desperately need. It is not “selfish” to take care of your own needs, in fact it is necessary! How do you expect to be able to care for your family if you are so depleted you literally have nothing left to give? STOP IT! STOP IT RIGHT NOW!
#5: Nourish Your Body
Be sure to take in enough water and good quality food! Stress and lack of nutrients is what leads to illness, so try to stay ahead! Drinking herbal tea can be helpful, make a big pot of soup for the week, and make sure to get in extra nutrition. My favorite Standard Process/MediHerb supplements to help get through the holidays are:
Adrenal Complex, Adrenal Tonic, Nevaton, and Min-Tran are all great for managing stress.
Congaplex, Cataplex AC, Immuplex, and the adrenal supplements listed above are all great for supporting the immune system.
SP GreenFood, SP Complete, and Catalyn are all excellent ways to boost your nutrient intake!
#6: Set A Budget – And Stick to It!
Remember what I mentioned above about going into debt every Christmas? Yeah, I’m so over that! I had this tremendous guilt that I felt like my children should have tons of presents to open on Christmas. In reality, this is completely ridiculous. They have everything they NEED.
Truth of the matter anyways is, they will be excited for a second when they first open their gifts, but then they will just toss their new toys into the pile of their old toys and carry on with their life and they will still beg you every day to go to the store to buy something new!
I don’t want to raise my kids like that! Over the last several years we have been trying to “deprogram” our kids from this type of lifestyle. I want my kids to feel content and appreciate what they have. So, instead of buying an absurd amount of gifts for each of our children, we have a 4 gift rule:
- Something they want
- Something they need
- Something to wear
- Something to read
…And everyone is happy!
We also try to set aside Christmas money each month throughout the year so that when Christmas comes, we have our budget to stick to!
#7: Throw Out The Rules!
Our final tip to you – throw out the rules! This has seriously been one of the most amazing ideas that we have implemented into our lives for stress-free holidays! Did you know that there isn’t actually a law that says you have to eat turkey for Thanksgiving? Crazy, right?! We are definitely “out of the box” people anyway, but this has been great for our family (and my sanity)!
One year we made enchiladas for Thanksgiving, I baked a chicken and a ham for Christmas, and for New Years we had nachos and margaritas (…not that I am promoting the use of alcohol)!
You can literally do anything you want! Just because it’s always been a certain way, it doesn’t mean you have to keep doing it! If it’s not working for you, don’t be afraid to start something new!
Finally, we want to leave you with this:
Redefine what the holidays mean to you. Create new traditions with your family. Holidays are about coming together, feeling united, being full of gratitude, love and joy! If you aren’t feeling those things, something isn’t right. No matter where you are, who you are with, or what you are doing, there is ALWAYS something to appreciate. If you find that your holidays are taking joy away from you instead of filling you up…I hope you will consider some of these ideas!
Blessings to you all!